Power of Positive
By Greg Bach
The ability to play sports – and navigate life – with a positive mindset sets kids up for lots of success.
But it’s up to parents to help make it happen.
“Instilling a positive mindset in our kids is one of the single most important things we can do,” says Krista Rizzo, a Certified Transformational Life Coach, author, speaker, video show host, wife and mom of two sports-playing children. “It’s teaching them how to look at the world through a positive eyeball.”
Rizzo speaks nationwide on mindset, communication, balance and empowerment and helping individuals realize their true capabilities.
It’s a powerful message that resonates close to home, too.
“I sit on the board for my kids’ soccer league and it’s an all-volunteer board and we do a one-pager for all the parents at the beginning of the season talking about having a positive mindset,” Rizzo says. “And teaching our kids and instilling these values in them so our coaches can reinforce them on the field.”
We caught up with Rizzo, founder of Why Am I Yelling, to talk about motivation, mindsets, and more. Check out what she had to say:
SPORTINGKID LIVE: How can coaches instill positive mindsets in kids?
RIZZO: Sometimes as parents when we talk to our kids they tend to not listen, but when they hear it from somebody else the lightbulb kind of goes off. Coaches need to teach kids how to turn a negative into a positive. Everything is a learning experience. For example, a coach can say ‘You may not have scored that goal but look at what you learned on that play and this is what we can change next time.’ When coaches talk to their players in a positive way that will automatically help them learn to do that themselves.
SPORTINGKID LIVE: What’s your message to those parents who have trouble controlling their emotions at youth sports events and spend most of the game yelling?
RIZZO: The parents on the sidelines who are yelling at their kids are missing the goal; they actually need to do a self-check with themselves. These youth sports years are a small blip on a child’s relationship with their parents and I don’t want it to be marred by my kid growing up saying, ‘Mom always pushed me to do things that I didn’t want to do,’ and ‘I didn’t even like that sport and it wasn’t fun.’ The day my kid comes home and says ‘this isn’t fun for me anymore Mom’ is the day that we have to re-evaluate.
SPORTINGKID LIVE: How can parents be positive sources of motivation for their child?
RIZZO: To motivate your child they have to see that you are a motivated person yourself. If you’re the parent sitting on the couch eating potato chips and watching tv all day what do you think is going to happen? Kids are going to do the same thing. We are all creatures of habit and we are creatures of our environment. My husband jokes all the time that I am like the Energizer Bunny, but you know what, it’s for our kids. It’s all about keeping yourself motivated to keep your kids motivated.
SPORTINGKID LIVE: You recently launched a course called Inspiring Transformation. What does that focus on?
RIZZO: It talks about the five foundations that I personally believe every human being on the planet needs to do in order to accept change that comes your way that is unexpected, and to create change in your life. The five foundations are:
Having the Big Dream: I tell my kids if you want to be the next Beyonce you better work; you’ve got to work for everything. Have the dream and then put attainable goals in place.
Mindset: It’s about really being present and having actionable steps that you do every day to keep positivity flowing around you. It’s who you surround yourself with and the choices that you make.
Communication: The single most important thing you can have in any relationship is communication. You need to be able to communicate with your teams, with your teachers, with your parents and with your children. And it’s not just about talking – it’s about listening and observing and writing and social media. They are all forms of communication so if you master your communication skills, especially as a child, just think about how advanced they are going to be when they get to be adults.
Balance: We, as a society, are so hyper-focused on work, work, work all the time and we forget that our lives are just as important as our work lives, and our kids’ lives are just as important. It’s a very fine line that we draw in the sand for what’s important, so if you can achieve balance in your life by using tools like time management tools and having resources around you that you can use to create a better balance in your life, then you are automatically going to feel better and you’re going to be able to do all the things on the list better.
Empowerment: Once you’ve done those four things that’s where the empowerment comes in and that’s how we empower ourselves. When you’re running on all cylinders you feel empowered to go out and tackle the world as a kid, as a teenager, as an adult. If we start teaching our kids this now, then when they get older they’ll be able to deal with just about any situation that comes their way.
SPORTINGKID LIVE: What’s the message you deliver to your children?
RIZZO: There’s three things that I say to my kids every single day. I tell them that I want them to be happy; I tell them to please make good choices; and I tell them I love them. That’s what my kids know, and they know that from their parents. Those are the biggest things that we can give our kids.
For more information, or to check out the free resources and on-line courses Rizzo offers, head HERE.
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